Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Kindness begins with....
Have you ever been in a room with someone with a disability and felt awkward?
Did you stare and then look away when you got caught?
Did you purposefully avert your eyes?
Did you avoid that person?
Did you smile?
Did you say hello?
How do you interact with people normally?
Do you ignore others in a busy waiting room?
Do you smile and say hi?
Do you stare at people?
(I am admittedly a people watcher...so I am taking myself to task!)
Having a child with a disability has opened my eyes to many things.
I have learned that I am not tolerant when I'm cranky.
I'm usually cranky at doctor's offices.
I don't go out of my way to make people comfortable enough to say hi to me.
And I get frustrated when people stare.
And then I realize that I have been guilty of staring.
We all probably have.
It's human nature.
We are a curious people.
I know that personally, I would rather someone smile at us, and talk to Kumaka than ignore or stare without even a smile.
I love to answer questions, if they are kind and in good taste.
I love educating people about Spina Bifida and I love talking about Kumaka.
I promise to smile first, if you promise to say hi and talk to us.
I promise to be kind and answer your questions to the best of my ability.
I know Kumaka loves it when your kids come over to play, so please don't call them back to you, it hurts his feelings.
And he might say really loudly "Mom, that guy is staring at me" to which I will say loudly "It's ok honey, wave and say hi!".
(that happened this week)
And please...if my other kids are with me, say hi to them too! Everyone ignores them all together because their eyes are naturally drawn to Kumaka. My kids are pretty cute...and would love a little hello once in awhile! :)
I've realized that kindness begins with me...so I promise to do my part....
Here is our collage....I LOVE IT~
And I want to direct you to a relatively new online magazine. It is a wealth of information....great articles and growing info about support groups, blogs, etc in your area in regards to Spina Bifida.
Faces of Spina Bifida was started by a couple of talented women. I am blessed enough to have been asked to write for them. YAY! I'm so excited about this opportunity. These women have foresight, and will help our community so much! I look forward to working with them!