The next story is very close to my heart. It's the story of a mama and her sweet girl....Shannon is a new friend to me. She has recently adopted her little girl. Yordanka is new to our country...and to Shannon. Shannon is new to being a mommy, and new to being a mommy of a little with extras. This sweet angel girl will melt your heart...and this story will make you cry. Keep your tissues handy...
this story is not just another Spina Bifida Awareness story...
Fairy Tales do come true…..
Our Spina Bifida story is not the typical story.
I am the adoptive Mama of a 4 year old, dazzling little
brown eyed sprite, that captures the heart of everyone she
I made the decision to adopt 8 years ago. I carefully
planned, saved and prepared. In that time, I worked with
handicapped children, knew the child I would someday
adopt would have a “special need” ( I deplore that term),
and I had a list of what I was willing to take on.
Spina Bifida was Not on that list.
When the time came, and I started poring over files of
children, every time I received a new one, I felt the same
feelings of excitement, apprehension, fear and enthusiasm
to be a Mama…..
On a warm sunny afternoon I received a call from my case
worker. She told me she had a file of a little girl with Spina
Bifida that she thought I would want to look at. At that
moment in time, even though SB was not on my “list”,
something told me I needed to see this child.
Nothing anybody said could of prepared me for what I felt,
when I opened her file and saw her…..
My heart stopped, I had this breathless feeling, , as I took
in every little detail of her face, hair, eyes, little nose and I
reached out to touch the screen-I realized I was sobbing.
(Oh even now, that memory invoke a whirlwind of tears
all over again)
I knew without a doubt, she was my daughter. I did not
choose Spina Bifida, an intelligent, playful, creative,
beautiful, loving little girl chose me to be her Mama.
On September 14, 2012, I met Yordanka for the first time.
She was even more vivacious in person!
When I look at
Yordanka, I do not
see a child that has
Spina Bifida. There
is no mourning the
loss of what she
might have been! She
already is! To me she
does not have a
handicap, she was given a gift that will enable her to
achieve and appreciate life & goals few people
understand. I can say that, because I myself am also
I see a child that has the
potential even at 4, to do what ever
she sets her mind too.
she sets her mind too.
I love watching her, as she
concentrates, she sticks out her
That’s when Mama knows shes
really set her mind to it!
As she sits next to me at the
table coloring with colored
pencils, she accidentally colors outside the lines. She picks
up the eraser and ereases the color. I chuckle to myself, her
OCD is a little unnerving to Mama. I have a sign that
hangs on the front door that reads “color outside the
lines”…LOL! As she looks over at me, she says Mama,
points to one of the flowers and says “ one”…time to
She absolutely loves music and
art, loves to dress all Girly-
Girl, hates her hands being
dirty, but will crawl thru a
mud puddle, and splash
around in it!
I LOVE THAT ABOUT
Yordanka is well aware of the fact that her legs do not
work like everyone around her.
The first time I put her on her trike, and stretched her legs
out to see if her feet would touch the pedals, she shook her
finger at me and said “Ne Mama”.
When there is something she wants and it is not within
grabbing reach, she will pull herself up to reach for it.
I encourage her to TRY first in everything she does. Yes it
would be easy to pick her up and carry her everywhere, but
what will she learn from that?
Putting her in a wheelchair, is something this Mama
struggles with. She hates to be confined. When we go
outside, no matter if its sunny or raining, she wants to be
down and moving.
Our first appointment with the Children's Hospital for
assessments is in 2 weeks. Whatever I can do, to encourage
and help her to be mobile without a wheelchair, I will do. I am not naive at all to the fact, that she may opt for one, due to the ease of the mobility. I as the Mama, have the gift of encouragement to share with her! I, who watches and encourages this little Bug, to TRY first.
-wakes up every morning happy &
-wakes Mama by squeezing her nose, and
kissing her cheek while giggling
-throws herself on top of me, and squeezes
her arms around me
-yells “I wuv u Mama”
-is outrageously funny
-cracks herself up, as much as her Mama
-her favorite color is blue
-hates coloring outside the lines
-loves to go everywhere “ready Mama”…
-loves to dance with Mama
-sings at breakfast
-loves to feed her pygmy goat
-not so pumped about the dogs “kissing” her
-loves the cats purring on her lap
-isn't “dressed” until she has her shoes on & something in her hair-
-loves to swing
-isn't real pumped about her doll cart being used for PT
-giggles until she hiccups when Mama
blows raspberries on her belly
-loves PT when it’s a game, and doesn't know its PT
-smiles and melts hearts
-shy and social all at the same time…
As for being this child's Mama…I AM BLESSED!
If I had to sum up in one word who Yordanka is, it’s
The depth of her personality and willingness to push
herself, and keep trying is overwhelming.
It’s my duty to be true to her, to encourage, nurture and
enrich her environment and life to help her fulfill her
dreams and goals.