Five years ago I was pregnant with our youngest boy Kumaka. At nineteen weeks he was diagnosed with Spina Bifida, Hydrocephalus, and two Clubbed Feet.
(You can read more about him here) We were afraid of a lot of things...I can't even write them all down, probably because I still have a lot of fear about a lot of things. But I remember distinctly the two biggest fears of mine that were unfounded.
One: I was terrified I would not bond with him. We've all heard of this happening. Especially when there is a traumatic event. Like a child being born with a disability. This was my very secret, shameful secret. How could I even think like that? I didn't know...but I did. I was so scared of that.
Two: I was equally terrified that I would hate his feet...and let me just say I am not a feet person ANYWAY...so I was petrified I would not want to touch or kiss his sweet baby feet.
So as we were excited about having boy number five come into our home...
The day approached...
The next test was his feet....would I hate them? Be afraid of them?
"Jellybean feet". Which stuck....
So my fears were unfounded....there were a lot of prayers and a lot of tears before I met this sweet bundle of joy.
Of course there are new fears, and lots of uncertainty. There is all of that with ANY child, but especially with a child with a disability. I have learned that the only way to deal with fear of any sort is to give it up to the Lord, get down on my knees and pray. If I need to cry I cry....and then I get up and do what I need to do. I have found strength in Him, and learned that through Him all things are possible.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY LITTLE KUMAKA!!!!
From...A Mom of Boys!!!!